I was sitting at the bar at my favorite restaurant having chili and wine on Friday night. I started talking to Mila and her Husband Robert. Mila is a very sensible woman. She is half Bolivian and half Spanish. After some minutes our conversation got very deep. I asked her what motivates her. She said, “Making people happy”. She knew a lot of people in the bar. She hugged them like if they were best friends. She gave her smile away without hesitating. She made people feel important and loved, even for few seconds. She inspired this post.
Last week, I also listened to the Tim Ferris podcast with Adam Robinson. Adam. talked about creating magic for others. He said that in interactions with someone else “the purpose is to delight another person”. Adam told a story about him getting a special gift to his friend Warren Buffet. Warren earned his first cents when he was 6 years old by selling Bemoans gum. Adam planned to find a Bemoans gum pack, frame it, and send it to Warren. The interesting part is the way the story unfolds . He finds along the way people that help him to pursue his plan.
This reminded me of a book I read recently Love Does by Bob Goff. Bob helps others achieve their dream by creating fun and magic. It is a very inspirational and almost unbelievable book. One of the first stories is about a guy planning to propose to his girlfriend using Bob’s Backyard near the coast. Bob have never met this guy. He found the guy to be very passionate about it. Bob decided to help him. As the date gets closer, the plan gets more sophisticated. Bob, to delight the young man plans a big surprise by getting the coast guard to shoot of canons from a firefighting boat when the new fiancée said yes.
Lewis Howes at the School of Greatness has a great short podcast about focusing on giving. He provides a great example about how small actions can impact people lives, like a man taking his shirt putting it on a shivering man on a street He recalls that one of the happiest moments was going to a third world country helping build schools with the Pencils of Promise foundation. Making people happy makes you happy!
So, my take away:
For my future interactions, business or social, I will try my best to:
- delight the other person
- make him or her feel good
- be a great listener and ask details about what the other person is expressing
- understand better his or her needs
- sincerely complement
- create acts of kindness (KindSpring provides great ideas)
I will also try to give 10% or more of my income to my church or a good cause.
“You can have everything in life you want, if you will just help other people get what they want.” ― Zig Ziglar
“To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded.” ― Ralph Waldo Emerson